How is your family’s income?
How is your physical health?
How is your beauty?
I certainly know you usually complain about your life.
Why am I not rich?
Why am I not beautiful?
In life, have you ever ask yourself those questions such as: why am I not rich/ not beautiful/ good weather/ good geographic location?
I am sure many of us usually complain about our life, but not many people look forward to find a way to improve their life.
Charlie Chaplin is a man who lived in a poor family, his parents were alcoholic. He overcame his family situation. He became an actress, a director, a producer, then a comedy king.
Other people, Mari Curie who lived in poor family too. When she went to a university, she starved all day, she never had a kind clothes. Eventually, she became a world-renowned physicist, she is only woman who achieved two Nobel prizes.
Greeks live in a bad geographic location in Peninsula with many ragged rocks, little farm, but civilization of Greeks started very early.
From example, I realized successful peoples usually have difficult life, so what‘s stopping your life from success.
Think about everything that you like.
Decide and act.
Love what belong to you, and embrace opportunities.
The door will be opened
And our lives will be changed.
Five years ago,
I read a book called “I am Gifted, so you are”, Adam Khoo. I read a paragraph about his goal of Adam Khoo. When he was a child, he was a worst student in the school who is addicted to game. He was never trusted by his parents, his teachers and his friends. He thought about himself and why everybody treated him as a useless person. He started to change his mind and he set his goals/objectives for himself as an important step toward success in life.
His goals are listed as the following:
Get in to the top first student of his secondary school within a year
Get into Victory Specialize High School
Get into National University of Singapore
Importantly, he tell his goals to his friends and his teachers.
After all, he has succeed his life. And he is world-renowned.
However, a different author, Derek Sivers , who wrote “Keep your goals to yourself” has a different approach to his successful method. He said: “You should have kept your mouth shut”.
Don’t talk your goal for anyone.
Telling someone your goals makes it less likely to happen. When everybody acknowledge it your mind is tricked, feeling that it’s already done then you’ve felt that satisfaction, and you’re less motivation to do the actual hard work. Psychologists called that “social reality”
He gives proofs:
In 1926, Kurt Lewin, a founder of social psychology, called this “substitution”.
In 1933, Wera Mahler found when it was acknowledged by other, it felt real in the mind.
In 1982, Peter Gollwitzer worte a whole book about this and 2009, he did some tests that were published.
163 people were chosen to across four separate tests. Everyone wrote their goals. Then half of them announced their commitment to this goal (group 1) in front of everyone, and half didn’t (group 2).
After 45 minutes, group 2 said, they felt that they had a long way to achieve their goal.
After 33 minutes, group 1 said, they felt much closer to achieve their goal.
The result turned out to be you will felt the gratification when you talk to someone.According to this example, when you set your goal, please keep your mouth shut and resist the temptation to announce your goal.
After 2 examples, I don’t know what is right?
Tell your goals or keep your mouth shut.
Why am I a weekday vegetarian?
Do you think you are a major culprits in term of environment and health damage?
You never think about this question, don’t you?
Just talk about food, we have desperately damaged our environment and health. I will give few information.
First, eating a mere hamburger a day can increase a risk of dying by a third.
Second, 10 million animals are killed each year for food in factory farm condition.
Third, meat amazingly causes more emission than all of transportation’s pollution combined: cars, trains, planes, boats, buses, all of it.
Fourth, beef production uses 100 times water than most vegetables do.
Today, we consume animal food twice as 50s.
How do you feel about these angles?
Is it enough convince you to go vegetarian?
I know becoming a vegetarian is very difficult and not anyone can achieve it. For example, applying to myself, I decided to become a vegetarian multiple times and also fell the same times.
In that period, I always thought about these mon lau, nuong’..
My good intentions were conflicted with my taste buds.
I wondered, might there be a third solution besides being a meat eater or vegetarian?
Luckily, “weekday veg “was born. “ – nothing with face Monday through Friday” and on the weekend, simply your choice.
If you want to take it to next level as well as you want to protect the environment, and health.
Remember to avoid red and processed meats. You should choose harvested fish.
Cutting five days a week is cutting 70 percent of your meat intake.
Certainly, you are healthier, you live longer and never be sick. You will lose weight, and save money. You feel better about the animals and lessened pollution.
What is stopping you from giving weekday veg a shot?
1, what you’ve learnt from the talk?
Personally, I should use these single and readable sentences that everybody can understand these my problems or my ideals. Then provide visuals which appeal to our other senses and create a deeper sense of understanding of what‘s being described.
2, what is the environment?
What is a trabeculae?
Can you understand it?
We must have great communication with scientists and engineers to change the world simple because our scientists and engineers are tacking our grandest challenges such as environment, health …. So we are non-scientists and have a responsibility to interact with them. Please talk nearly to me.
You can say “spatial and temporal” but why not just say “space and time”.
Einstein said “make everything as simple as possible, but no simpler.”
Please, having example, stories and analogies problems in order to able to understand everything of you.
Please, don’t drop the bullet points. A slide is not only boring, but it relies too much on the language area of our brain, and causes us to become overwhelmed.
I wondered, how can I understand scientists and engineers problems.
And Mellissa give an equation: take a science, subtract a jargon and bullet points, divide by relevance and multiply it by a passion result is understanding. Simple.
About a year ago, I started learning English. I always found new words. Specially, I always tried to find many strange and hard words to learn as well as showing off my level. Oh my god, my friends don’t know and understand my problems and I can’t use these new hard words fluently. After all, I failed communicating with everybody.
Thanks you Melissa story, I realized that I must have change my mind as well as learning a good English method.
What is the key of success?
It isn’t social intelligence.
It isn’t good looks.
It isn’t physical health.
It isn’t IQ.
It was grit.
“Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for year, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”
How do you enhance your grit?
This is “growth mindset” by Carol Dweck, Stanford University.
It is the belief that the ability to learn is not fixed, that it can change with your effort.
In fact, grit is unrelated to measure of talent.
I will succeed for my learning, for my work, for my life. Just need my effort.
For me, learning English is a long- term goal. At least 100 times, I wanted to give up everything. I think I don’t have talent, intelligence, as well as family income in order to pursue my English plan.
But now, I firm success for my learning English. I will learn like it is a marathon. I believe that the ability to learn is change.
First, I make a long-term commitment about learning English, life of future. Then, I will try to pursue it day in day out,. I am ready to welcome failures. I will persevere when I fail, and I will success in the future.
Thanks the lesson of Angela Lee.